A custom build or remodel is the realization of a long-held dream, and clients are naturally filled with anticipation, excitement and even a bit of nervousness. In preparation of their project they have pored over gorgeous online images and meticulously created their Houzz ideabooks and Pinterest boards.
As inspiring as these sources are, I have noticed that they can also have an unintended, overwhelming effect that can all too often overshadow the positive feelings and lead to crippling anxiety and self-doubt. Where once these homeowners delighted in dreams of a Pinterest-worthy home they would proudly show off, they now only see potential missteps. They lose confidence in their vision and start second-guessing their decisions. They are afraid to get it wrong.
A recent client of mine was incredibly excited, but equally anxious to begin a longawaited renovation on her kitchen. As we scoured her Pinterest and Instagram pictures, I could definitely see a common thread emerging. But when I made suggestions based around design elements she clearly loved, she immediately refused.
“I couldn’t do that,” she said. “It’s too popular, too trendy.” She had a completely valid point. But as I questioned her further, it was obvious to me that, trendy or not, these design elements were really where her heart was. In fact, she had always loved them – they just happened to have recently reached mass appeal.
Two weeks later, I attended Southern Living’s Annual Design Summit. I was so excited (and admittedly star-struck) to rub elbows with so many of the South’s greatest talents in architecture and design as well as the editors of some of my favorite magazines! I listened intently to all the speakers, but was especially appreciative of Bobby McAlpine and Susan Ferrier’s words of wisdom. “To thine own heart be true,” they essentially said. Trendy or unheard-of, they urged standing out, being different, and following your heart no matter what (you fear) others may think.
Their advice resonated with me and also validated my own beliefs. So often I see clients deciding against things they sincerely love because they are afraid that loving them just isn’t enough. They are seeking perfection and they don’t trust that their own vision will get them there. It really doesn’t matter whether what you love was popular years ago, is unprecedented to date, or is the hottest thing going. Be brave. Have faith in your vision. Have faith that your builder and/or designer can make it work. Let the things you love drive your design. In trusting yourself, you’ll end up with something that will be so much better than someone else’s charming pin; it will be perfect for you.
Mary Ludemann is the founder of New Old and has been designing and building homes for over 12 years. To discuss your next dream build or renovation project, contact New Old at 704-975-5196. For more information, visit www.newold.com or email them at building@newold.com.